Recently I read an interesting article about how Facebook influences jealousy between relationship partners. It was published on Vizita.si .
It says that Amy Muise from university in Canada discovered several changes in relationships due to Facebook. She thinks that:
- Facebook creates addiction, once you start using it you keep coming back.
- More time you spent on Facebook, more jealous and suspicious you get.
- The same goes for your partner, especially, if you have ex girlfriends/boyfriends among Facebook friends. Amy Muise advices you to stop using Facebook in order to minimise your jealousy.
- She thinks catching a cheating partner can be way easier with Facebook, because you can spy on your partner's profile without his awareness.
I have to say I am somewhat sceptical about these statements. Does anyone feel more jealous because his relationship partner has a Facebook account? Or is this only an excuse for people who are over possessive anyway?
Naročite se na:
Objavi komentarje (Atom)
I cannot see why jealousy would be any greater than in an offline environment. I think in Slovenia, we have a different situation: because our nation is so small in intertwined, because everyone knows almost everyone, and social networks often overlap, we got used to "bumping into" our ex partners, our current partner`s ex partners, finding out your new partner`s group of friends includes a friend who dated one of your ex before you etc. etc. etc.
OdgovoriIzbrišiAnd because Facebook in particular is more about "keeping in touch with the existent" I cannot see why it would be any different. It is the "evil" you know, nonetheless. It is the new connections that might cause jealousy, the "evil" you do not know, that worries you: is she/he better than me, will she/he fall in love with him/her?
Again we come back to the same problems faced in FtF interactions. If you have a problem with your partner going out partying without you, where he/she has been, what did she/he do, who was she/he with, than those fears are projected onto Facebook as well (or any envrionment for that matter).
To conclude: it is only an excuse who are over possessive anyway.
And you can get addicted to partying and going out drinking with random friends just as much as to FB. Your partner can neglect you because of his addiction to reading, studying, band practices, computer games, work etc. If a couple has these problems, then FB usage is the least of their problems.
so up to date:)
OdgovoriIzbrišiJealousy is in my opinion a problem of individual nature. Nevertheless, if someone has a problem with this trait, owing a fb account might help him/ her getting crazy cause of its instant and visual aspect:)
Facebook is a social networking site; it's main purpose is to envisage the connections between people. These connections can be of various character from colleagues, friends from childhood, school, ex-boyfriends, ex-lovers. What I want to say is that facebook may enable to renew all of the connection which were lost and bring them back to reality. So if someone wants to cheat on his/her partner, facebook for sure increases this opportunity. Nevertheless, if someone really wants to do it, he will make the most of any opportunity, if it is in virtual
space or if it is in the real one.
All in all, let's not get into the frenzy and start trusting each other.
I agree with Jernej: If you have a problem with your partner, than those uncertainties are projected onto any kind of communication between you two, including Facebook.
OdgovoriIzbrišiThe problem here is, that Facebook makes all kinds of information available just by klicking around the network, so a partner can find out information that the other one was not ready or just didn't want to share. So in a way, Facebook and other social media could be seen as a test for relationships: If partners can handle the potential problems that Facebook may pose, than their relationship won't suffer any (serious) consequences related to Facebook usage.
I must say that, by reading the previous comments (and the post itself), I got the feeling that we all see Facebook and other similar social networks as more important than they really are in the case of jealoucy and other similar personal traits. I don't see why Facebook should be the reason for people's jealousy, if the latter isn't present in the relationship ''offline''. I think of Facebook as a means of projecting your feelings (like Tina H. said) online. But if everything is alright in a relationship, I don't see a reason, why this should be any different when using Facebook. And to be honest, we don't see everything that is going on on Facebook - there is a possibility of private messages and chats which other people don't see, so I don't see why catching a cheeting partner would be easier with Facebook - unless he/she is so stupid or just doesn't care. I read the article on Vizita.si, but I think the research, as the article presents it, is not well grounded and the results are generalized and not representative. I can't tell if the research itself isn't well established and performed or if the article presents the research and the results in an inappropriate way, but with regard to the article, I must agree with the former comments and I must be nothing but sceptical about this research.
OdgovoriIzbriši